If you read my last post on Letters from Germany, you will know that I have some letters written in German addressed to my great-grandfather, Rudolph Kaiser. From the little we could deduce from them, it appeared he had another family in Germany.
Since writing my last post on Rudolf Kaiser, I have done some searching on his Children in Germany.
I researched on Ancestry.com and came up with the following:
- Rudolf Otto Pielenz (Rudolf Kaiser’s son) born 18 February 1890; Mother: Anna Auguste Emilie Pielenz*
- Ida Bertha Pielenz (Rudolf Kaiser’s daughter) born 19 December 1891; Mother: Anna Auguste Emilie Pielenz*
- Rudolf Otto Pielenz Married 7 April 1917 to Pauline Wilhelmine Helene Schauer; son of Anna Pielinz and Werner*
- Anna Pielenz married Friedrich Carl Wagner 24 February 1894.* Anna Pielenz and Friedrich Carl Wagner’s children are as follows:
- Anna Louise Auguste Wagner born 16 September 1894.*
- Emma Bertha Wagner born 15 November 1895.*
- Otto Robert Wagner born 27 July 1898.*
After finding this information, I went back to the letters written in German. I was able to pick out the dates 18 February 1890 and 19 December 1891. I was also able to pick out the name Warner. So I was sure that I had the right people.
I wondered why Rudolph would leave a wife and children in Germany, start another life here with a different wife and children. It appears they were never married as she did not give the children his last name. Then I thought maybe his intentions were to save some money and send for them. But before he could save enough money, she moved on and got married. She married two years before Rudolph got married here in the United States. Maybe he wasn’t the scoundrel after all. Then my curiosity got the best of me, and I had the first of the four letters transcribed. As you will see as you read the letter, she is very upset with Rudolf Kaiser. Here is the letter from 30 October 1910 transcribed
Berlin, dated 30.10.10
Dear Mr Kaiser!!!-?
Finally, after many, many years I have succeeded in finding out your address. You, dear Sir, will know that the result in 1890 of our relationship was a boy, and then, as a good-bye ! – a step which was so difficult – also a little girl. – And Anna Pielenz is deserted by the most beloved I once possessed, with two children, fatherless, alone. I have carved out an existence with my children in need of a father, and now that they are both grown, it is always the same lament: Where is our father…
My boy, as you know, has his father’s name, i.e. Rudolf Pielenz, born on 18 February 1890. My character and Your face, which was my consolation. Now he is big and a soldier. He is serving in Allenstein and has grown into a handsome young man. But now he is interested and searching for his father, who has treated him so ignominiously, so completely without interest. And the little girl has grown into a young lady. Born on 19 December 1891, her name is Ida and she also had no idea of her fatherless birth. But now
that they are both grown they will probably be in touch very soon and will greet their father by way of a letter, (because), when the boy was 5 years old and the girl 4, I was forced to get married because I could no longer afford the maintenance for the 2 children. It was just too hard for me, so I married without love and had to be content with my lot, because my love belonged only to one person ? , to whom, after all, I gave everything, and to my children. I have been on my own again for years now, and, as I say, I am content, because resentment and hatred grew more
noticeable all the time; because, you’ll know what I mean ?, a marriage without love is like a soup without salt and thus I am on my own with my children, living with my youngest sister. I hope you have not completely forgotten me and that [your] 14 years were happier than mine were. I really only moped around continuously. Maybe you think back occasionally to times past when happiness was still sweet.
Anna Vägner nee Pielenz
Berlin, S.O. 33
Both children send their greetings
This opens up more questions than it answers. How did she find him? How does one find someone across an ocean in 1910? I started to think how I would go about it. Now we turn to the Internet or maybe private detectives. I don’t think she had the means to hire a private detective. But she probably knew what ship he traveled on, maybe he told her what city he planned to settle in. She may have known his friends and family in Germany. So maybe she found him through them. It sounds like she never got over him. I also notice that while she tells him of her unhappy marriage, she does not mention the children that were born of that marriage. She says she hopes he has been happy the past 14 years. It took me awhile to figure out where the 14 came from. From 1890 or 1891 to 1910 is 19 or 20 years not 14. In 1910 Rudolph was married 14 years. She even knew how long he had been married.
I do not know who is right or wrong and there are always two sides to a story. Her side is documented with letters, his side is silent. There are no letters from him, no stories handed down, and so we do not have his side. When I thought about her contacting his family in Germany, I wondered what happened to his mother and father. I have their names and that is it. When they were born or died remains a mystery. I never heard my grandfather talk about his grandparents. I don’t even think he knew their names. When I started doing the family tree, he was still alive and never gave me that information. I don’t know if he knew about his half-brother and half-sister. If any of their descendants are around today, I would love to meet them. I’m sorry that Anna Pielenz was so hurt. I hope she forgave him and moved on for her sake. As with all family secrets, they make for a good story, but I think about how sad it was for those children and their mother. On the other hand if he stayed with them, I would not be here. While I feel sad for them, I’m glad he had my grandfather. Rudolph did something good; he raised a good and decent man in my grandfather. My grandparents were married 58 years, my grandfather served in the United States Army during WWI, and worked at the same place for 45 years. He owned a home and raised a son and daughter who were also good and decent people, and life goes on in me, my children, and grandchildren. Maybe somewhere in the world there are sons, daughters, and grandchildren of Anna Pielenz and Rudolf Kaiser’s relationship.
*Information from Berlin Germany Birth and Marriage Records at Ancestry.com.
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